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Can my child decide who they want to live with?

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Can my child decide who they want to live with?

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September, 2015
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Generally a child cannot decide which parent they want to live with.

But as a child gets closer to the age of majority, which is 18 years old in Ontario, they have more say about where and with whom they live. And it is rare for a court to make a custody and access order about a child who is 16 years old or older.

It's important never to pressure or try to convince your child to live with you. Children should be kept out of the conflict between the adults as much as possible.

There are times, however, when a child has very strong views of their own about who they want to live with. If your child is older and emotionally mature and able to give their views and wishes freely, you can talk to them about their choices.

If you go to court, the judge uses a legal test called the best interests of the child to make decisions about custody, access, and parenting arrangements.

One of the things the judge can look at is the views and wishes of the child. Usually, the older and more emotionally mature the child is, the more the child's wishes are taken into account.

If the judge needs the testimony of the child or evidence of the child's views and wishes to help them decide, the judge can:

Learn more about this topic
CLEO (Community Legal Education Ontario/Éducation juridique communautaire Ontario)
Ontario Ministry of the Attorney General
Family Law in Ontario
Department of Justice Canada

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