2. Talk to your partner about your child

If you find out from your child why they do not want to visit your partner, encourage your child to talk to your partner about the issue.

When your child speaks directly with your partner it helps make their relationship stronger, so encourage them to talk. If your child and your partner can work out the issue together, they will both feel stronger and more connected.

If your child is unable or scared to talk with your partner on their own, sit down with them together if you can. You do not need to agree or disagree; your role is to help them communicate with each other.

Or, you can ask someone they both trust to sit down with them to talk about your child's concerns. For example:

• a teacher or school counsellor
• a social worker or therapist
• their doctor
• a religious leader

If you do not know why your child is refusing to visit your partner, you and your partner can try to work together to figure out how to help your child.

Talking to your partner may not be an option where there is a history of abuse.